When plans don’t happen

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Plans won’t always happen. That’s expected, and it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

A missed plan is useful information. Maybe it was too big, the timing was off, you needed something you didn’t have, or another part of life got in the way. The question is what you learned about the plan, not what’s wrong with you.

From there, you can make it smaller, change the time, get something ready ahead, ask someone to join, try a different activity, or let it go if it no longer fits what matters to you.

If the same activity keeps getting moved, it’s worth a closer look. Sometimes moving a plan is just practical. Sometimes it’s a way of avoiding it.


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